Some years ago, I was consoling a young woman who had lost 8 of her children over a period of some 10 years to Child Protective Services in the State of Oregon and, at 32 years of age, she cried out to me that she was "nothing more than a Baby-Maker for the State of Oregon." She pointed out what beautiful babies she always made. She was blond with clear, sky-blue eyes. The Ultimate essence of an Aryan Broodmare, the Nazi ideology for Caucasian gentile. I could do nothing but agree with her and share the depth of her sorrows at the loss of so many opportunities to attempt the "raising of her own."
Her first and only actual mistake was in believing the liars that permeate the Child Protective Systems when they informed her that by voluntarily giving up her first child, she still remained healthy enough to have more children. It was what they Failed to Inform her about that made their continuing captures of her efforts to "bear and raise children" relentlessly unexcuseable. They Failed to Inform her that in their bureaucracy no natural parent is ever forgiven. All children from that day that she signed away her first child forward would be taken from her arms before she ever left the hospital(s) with them.
I have since that time keep tabs on this dear young woman who waits in expectant anticipation for her grown children to contact her. They will come. I have assured her of that. I told her the greatest revenge is to make a success of her life and I believe she has as much as she is able under such intense sorrow.
The ones I cried for the most are the children. Often the children taken so captive are left to become crippled both spiritually and emotionally in imprisoning paradims that are neither kind nor compassionate but ran solely for purposes of Greed. Yes! There are a few good foster homes but the majority are maiming and deadly for a child divorced of all who would naturally and instinctly protect them.
Those who studied the statistics know the facts...that foster care is far more deadly to children than even bad parental care. And Yes! finally some progress is being made on behalf of children in many states. Finally, some real training in alternatives to violence, some real committments to peace for children everywhere is starting to take place.
However, it is just a start. What is needed now and most urgent is a commitment "to do no harm" whether it is in our homes, our communities, our own nation, and in the world that children live in today. If children are to thrive, let's keep them alive by saying No to all wars and warrings whether those wars are insidious (as with CPS) or out-in-the-open (as in Iraq). Mothers cannot support War and the Lives of children at the same time. We must be united in our efforts for peace. All of our children deserve peace.