Reclaiming Mother's Day (yes, a bit late!)

Mother's Day did not begin as an exercise in commercialism, but rather, as an exercise in activism. It began by women marching in the streets, not marching into restaurants. While I'm all for honoring mothers on a special day, let's honor the visionary women who stood up and said "war is not the answer." Let us honor them by promoting and energizing the cause they stood for, for their wisdom in knowing there is a better way, and for their courage to say so.

Mother's Day was originally created to not only end war, but to also encourage mothers to participate in the community, serving in hospitals and social welfare projects. In other words, they saw the power of the collective voice to bring about change, to raise awareness about social and economic justice. Can you imagine if this Sunday, mothers, instead of going to Sunday Brunch, went instead to Sunday Protest? During the 1980s, Mother's Day gatherings at nuclear sites protested the arms race. Can you imagine that same effort today to help address our impact on the environment? How about a Mother's Day filled with declarations for a sustainable society, a sustainable planet, a sustainable future - because the future belongs to the sons and daughters of those mothers.

Let's restore Mother's Day as a day that honors women's civil activism, that honors women's political participation in society, that recognizes their insights into creating a culture of peace, into healing the planet. Let's begin by taking Julia Ward Howe's Proclamation and sending it to those who represent and lead us, to remind them that today, just as in 1870, war is not the answer.

Isn't it ironic we use the word "arms" to represent both the loving embrace of a mother's hug, and the weapons we use to kill their sons and daughters? Only the first can restore peace and sanity to this planet.
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Mothers' Day Proclamation: Julia Ward Howe, Boston, 1870

Arise, then, women of this day! Arise all women who have hearts, whether our baptism be that of water or of fears!

Say firmly: "We will not have great questions decided by irrelevant agencies. Our husbands shall not come to us, reeking with carnage, for caresses and applause. Our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn all that we have been able to teach them of charity, mercy and patience.

We women of one country will be too tender of those of another country to allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs. From the bosom of the devastated earth a voice goes up with our own. It says "Disarm, Disarm! The sword of murder is not the balance of justice."

Blood does not wipe our dishonor nor violence indicate possession. As men have often forsaken the plow and the anvil at the summons of war, let women now leave all that may be left of home for a great and earnest day of counsel. Let them meet first, as women, to bewail and commemorate the dead.

Let them then solemnly take counsel with each other as to the means whereby the great human family can live in peace, each bearing after their own time the sacred impress, not of Caesar, but of God.

In the name of womanhood and of humanity, I earnestly ask that a general congress of women without limit of nationality may be appointed and held at some place deemed most convenient and at the earliest period consistent with its objects, to promote the alliance of the different nationalities, the amicable settlement of international questions, the great and general interests of peace.

Julia Ward Howe
Boston
1870

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Mother's Day continued

Thanks Daphne, for your input and observations, and for teaching children there is another way.
All we can do is establish a new paradigm.
Peace begins with me, and you.

Social Context

There are several things that I believe are important to realize about Howe's times in order to fully appreciate the proclamation that resulted in the first international day of peace.

Motherhood and womanhood were synonymous terms. A woman's success was measured by her childbearing success - specifically by her son-bearing success. She's speaking to all women here, and that's why we hear it said that peace is a women's issue. And when she says sons, she means both sons and daughters.

Howe wrote the proclamation in the aftermath of the civil war, during which she served as a nurse and aided the wounded from both sides of the bloodiest conflict in our history. She was not working for peace as we understand it today - she was working for the abolition of war.

She tells us plainly how the holiday should be celebrated: Leave your home and your family behind, gather together with other women, and convene an international peace congress. In 1870, all three of those actions were radical if not criminal things for a woman to do.

Before we get carried away and canonize the woman, it is also important to realize that she wrote "The Battle Hymn of the Republic," the lyrics of which glorify war and vengeance that's done in the name of religion.

I love Mothers Day. I love this holiday because I love being a mom. It's one of only four days of the year that I sit by the phone and wait for those inevitable phone calls from my grown sons. This year was even more special with Pangea Day and its theme of diversity and reconciliation being held on the previous day.

Commercialism has destroyed American culture, not just its holidays and certainly not just Mothers Day, but there's no need to throw out the baby with the bath water. Most of the moms I know were engaged on Mothers Day in some sort of peace action. Refusal to celebrate a holiday in a way that is in harmony with your values is handing victory to the capitalists.

Editor, propeace.net

Mother's Day

I'm glad you brought this up. Alix from www.peacescooter.com actually blogged about the history of Mother's Day and it really inspired me to be mindful and deliberate about how I celebrate that day with both my mom and my daughter.
To my mother, I decided to not freak out at the last minute and try to buy a gift and card FOR THE SAKE of buying a gift and card and instead, found a card around the house, and wrote inside of it, telling her how much I appreciate the time she's given to us, her children and that I wanted to give her 8 hours of my time (in 4- 2 hour segments) helping her with housework.

ON the other side of the spectrum, I told my 9-year old daughter (who teared up in frustration) that I NEVER EVER want her to buy me ANYTHING for Mother's Day. She wanted me to take her to the store at the last minute on Sunday to buy me a gift. I told her we would spend the money doing something together...like flying out to visit Alix when she's done the peace tour. :)

Oh, an interesting thing that Alix blogged about Julia Howe: She reportedly refused to celebrate the holiday just 9 years after implementing it because she felt that the commercialism had destroyed the meaning.
I'd have to agree.
In Peace, Daphne